One fine afternoon, watching the road from my balcony wrenched my heart into pieces. Felt like I often took roads for granted. COVID 19 has caused life to come to a stand still, everything is paused. What on earth could possibly make me get down there to reach my beautiful destination called "Home"!
"Home" now has two meanings for me! One that I was born in and the other where I shall give birth to someone! I had once written about how we take Men for granted, how their entire life is planned and how they become such puppets of the dominant ideology of patriarchy!
However if "A" is suffering and we all are discussing about A's problems, and say "B" is suffering too, but we all are so tired of discussing B's problems again and again that we just stop doing that, but that does not deny the fact that B has problems and that there is suffering.
Well! there are women raised by some great men who believe in equality and these men take that risk to jump out of the zone defined by years and years of beliefs to respect and protect the dignity of a woman. These men run with an ideology of having a strong faith in womanhood. Then there are men who are extremely proud of the masculinity inherited. Masculinity is a crisis I feel. It gives birth to Misogyny. And much worse.
We believe in Nature, we talk of Nature defining gender roles. So what happens is, a mother gives birth to a male child, she is considered to be the primary care taker. She raises the child with utmost care and affection. The child, growing up, realizes he is not like his mother, he is like his father. Boys don't grow up to be Mums. This is the point of tremendous confusion for boys. So distancing themselves from the mother and in partial isolation, however modernized a man is, he adapts to the traditional old beliefs set for a man, more or less.He also chooses a caretaker for his unborn child and the cycle continues!
Why are these gender roles already established and why don't we question them? Why can't we let the person choose his or her own roles? Why do we always think in the same pattern when it comes to a Woman and also a Man? Are we creating more misogynists in this cycle? Are we not fully utilizing the power of womanhood? or are we over utilizing it?
Think..!
"Home" now has two meanings for me! One that I was born in and the other where I shall give birth to someone! I had once written about how we take Men for granted, how their entire life is planned and how they become such puppets of the dominant ideology of patriarchy!
However if "A" is suffering and we all are discussing about A's problems, and say "B" is suffering too, but we all are so tired of discussing B's problems again and again that we just stop doing that, but that does not deny the fact that B has problems and that there is suffering.
Well! there are women raised by some great men who believe in equality and these men take that risk to jump out of the zone defined by years and years of beliefs to respect and protect the dignity of a woman. These men run with an ideology of having a strong faith in womanhood. Then there are men who are extremely proud of the masculinity inherited. Masculinity is a crisis I feel. It gives birth to Misogyny. And much worse.
We believe in Nature, we talk of Nature defining gender roles. So what happens is, a mother gives birth to a male child, she is considered to be the primary care taker. She raises the child with utmost care and affection. The child, growing up, realizes he is not like his mother, he is like his father. Boys don't grow up to be Mums. This is the point of tremendous confusion for boys. So distancing themselves from the mother and in partial isolation, however modernized a man is, he adapts to the traditional old beliefs set for a man, more or less.He also chooses a caretaker for his unborn child and the cycle continues!
Why are these gender roles already established and why don't we question them? Why can't we let the person choose his or her own roles? Why do we always think in the same pattern when it comes to a Woman and also a Man? Are we creating more misogynists in this cycle? Are we not fully utilizing the power of womanhood? or are we over utilizing it?
Think..!
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